pride + comparison

“Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man... It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.”

c.s. lewis, mere christianity

i read this quote a few weeks back and it just keeps creeping back up in my thoughts...everyday.
there is so much truth in those few statements. got me thinking....
what motivates me.
why does above said motivation drive me to comparison.
what does a healthy view of success look like. is that even such a thing??

by nature and genes, i'm a passionate person and am at full throttle most times. my family calls this "eagerness" dad passion. we are two peas in a pod. so when others around me don't have the same attack on life/work/etc i get bothered. 
why can't people just do it now. 
why aren't they trying hard enough. 
why are they doing what there doing. 
this is where my prideful heart gets in the way. competition is a great thing but sometimes i let that get competitive spirit get tainted by pride and quickly forget about a little thing called humility. 

now i just need to figure out how to adjust this sassy-ness and not be so prideful and judgemental towards others. sounds simple enough, eh?
anybody with me on this?
thanks for listening. keepin' it real on this tuesday morning.

me and dad

love ya dad!


  1. This is such a thoughtful discussion. What an interesting quote. I do believe it in theory, but not in totality. (Now, that sentence sounds a lot more snooty than intended. lol) Just that I believe I can be proud of a personal accomplishment not as a comparison to anyone else. Just as a 'way to go girl, nice job' as I pat myself on the back.

    I think self awareness is one of the keys to eliminating comparison ... as soon as I start to compare I try to take a step back and figure out exactly what it is that "I" want to accomplish

  2. i like that you are keeping it real. c.s. lewis definitely had some great thoughts on life and it is hard not to compare yourself to anyone else. but ultimately i feel comparison will only give you trouble and become a very negative area in anyone's life, gotta be happy with what you go, no matter what you have been given!

  3. such a great and insighful post. it's really hard for me to not judge someone when they're doing something that frustrates me or doing something i don't agree with but i have to remember that it's not my place to judge them and i can't let their decisions affect my life and how i live it. such a good reminder kitty kat... you are a wise friend to keep around :)


  4. What a convicting quote & a timely reminder. I've been concentrating on 2 Cor. 10:12, "they who compare themselves by themselves are not wise."

    Sweet pic of you & your dadio. =)

  5. I love both you and your dad, just the way you are :) What a great thought provoking post!

  6. The older I get and the more I experience I have the less I do this. I'm a high achiever myself, but have been floored in the past by pregnancy, being up at night with a new baby, etc. heaven forbid I ever have lupus or depression or an autistic child or a million other things other people could be struggling with at any moment (or a lifetime).

    1. Im having real problems trying to post this ... But I also wanted to say, that I have made a social effort to work on this in the past two years, and I hunk I've made a lot of progress. I'm able to see the talents and good traits in people that in the past I might've thought were wasting away their lives or unable to reach goals or keep the house clean or whatever.

    2. And by social I meant special ... Couldn't edit my post for some reason :(.

  7. Ah pride. It gets the best of us at times. I've been thinking on this lately too - how to stay away from the whole competition thing. I love the quote you used today - that is perfect.

  8. love love love CS LEWIS! that quote is really something. i think pride is such a life-long struggle along with comparison. thank God for His grace to change us!

  9. Ah, pride and comparison...things I struggle with on a daily basis. Your post is quite timely and I appreciate it! :)

  10. what a great quote- so interesting to read your thoughts and the comments above. Pride is a silly, but a necessary thing right? If only we were only allowed to have a small portion of it. ;) Loved this post of yours. xo


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